HI Julie,
It's very hard to accept when you are told you have RA. The pain is like nothing else and you can still look great but your body tells a very different story. If it's a nurse at the doctors doing your bloods she may not know much about RA. The blood tests tell them how it is affecting you with RA. You may need a steroid jag to help you through if it's a bad flare. Don't be thinking you are always going to be like this because the chances are you WONT. Once the drugs get sorted out and your body starts to cope with them it's a whole different story.
Regards to the rash, this is common on Sulph, I came out in a rash when taking this too. I was on the triple therapy at the start.
My name is Lorna, when I was hit with RA 4 years ago, it was so aggressive and in 5 weeks I was bed ridden and unable to do very little at all. I could not even open the tablets I was taking, on 14 tablets a day and still in agony I remember it well. I could not get up without help or hold a cup or brush my hair, this list is endless. I had lost the use of my right arm, could not turn my head was bent over because I could not straighten and my hands were decoration ( they didn't work at all ). Every joint in my body bar my knees was affected even my head and jaws. It was a living nightmare for me.
And like you said yourself, I looked great and healthy once I was showered and organised. But I felt like I was dying on the inside I hurt so much. Point of my story is I am not like that now.
I am as good as before as long as I don't over do things, try to look forward and be positive you will get on top of this. If I can there is every chance you will too. Try to pace yourself and do only a bit at a time.
I feel for you as it is so difficult to cope with when your so low in yourself.
Sending you a big hug and a

we have all been there it will get a bit easier.
Thinking about you Lorna xx